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Why A Narcissist Without Control In A Relationship Is Terrifying
When a narcissist loses control, it can sometimes result in severe harm.
Once the love-bombing and all the lovey-dovey feelings come to pass, supply will become a chore or otherwise boring to the narcissist.
With the exit of abdominal butterflies, and if the narcissist has no other option, they will encourage toxicity to manifest in the relationship. With all intention to create a tug/pull dynamic so the narcissist can get more selfish enjoyment out of the relationship. And sometimes to remain powerful and in the driver’s seat.
Many see this as the narcissist pushing the limits to how far they can go. This is to see if the supply will respond by feeding them exactly what they want.
If you’re in this situation or some variation of it, do not fall for it.
For whatever reason, narcissists can be persistent for an ego boost from time to time. Soon enough, if such needs aren’t met, then a whole different side of them will be exposed — a shade of them that you may not be prepared to see.
Once their mask slips, their feelings begin to spur and rage. In the midst of fury, partners (or those involved) will have no clue what is going on. Consisting of nothing but childish tantrums and arguments coming out of thin air.
It will become so incredibly hectic that any attempt to defuse them will further aggravate them, fueling their fire. They have no regard in agreeing or calming their nerves, because after all, they feed on that negativity and it will always be about them.
If all the above resonates with you, keep in mind that it’s a test to see just how loyal you’ll be in the heat of mistreatment — a sick and twisted test to cue in on your investment to the relationship.
It is likely that these behaviors is due to a trigger that goes all the way back to their childhoods — an emotional response that allows them to feel safe or guarded from harm (even perceived to be harmful). To justify the most unfavorable aspects of this course of action, consciously or not, they project it onto their partners.
