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“It’s Your Fault, You Made Me Do This”
The constant message from a narcissist — whether it’s a parent, partner, or anyone else — is this:
“You made me do this”
You’re responsible for me — my actions, my feelings, my failures, my choices. Every misstep, every wrong turn, every hurtful word I utter — it’s on you.
This is the narrative they weaponize, the twisted script they write to parentify you, to make you carry the unbearable weight of their avoidance.
“It’s your fault I abused you.”
“Your fault I cheated.”
“Your fault I yelled.”
Their pathological aversion to accountability becomes the foundation of this distortion. And when you are a person who reflects deeply, who feels compassion and empathy, who seeks to connect and collaborate, this narrative starts to seep in like poison.
They convince you, in their relentless way, that you are the problem. Through the constant weaponization of fear, obligation, and guilt, they manipulate your empathy to shoulder their burdens.
It works because you care. It works because you want to make things better. It works because you believe in taking…
