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These 4 Things Will Catch A Narcissist Off Guard

They will be left overwhelmingly surprised

3 min readJul 7, 2022


The things you do that scare them are the same things that leave them surprised as well. Here are some of the following:

Showing kindness

Displaying or giving any ounce of generosity will leave them utterly speechless. So much so that they will begin questioning if there are ulterior motives behind the gesture — asking such things as “What may be that person want?”.

Generally, the narcissist will not give the same treatment unless there is something in it for them. Assuming this pattern of thought, they believe others carry the same sentiments. It is exactly the reason you may not find a narcissist being the benefactor in any situation, especially if there is nothing in return. For them, it isn’t worth it.

Narcissists who are met on the receiving end of good, without expectation, will be ultimately stunned.

It’s also important to note that both kindness and generosity, in some way, give them supply. So it’s best to avoid giving them any opportunity to be taken advantage of.

Not feeding into their bullshit

Since narcissists are accustomed to intimidating others, they’re not subscribed to the idea their supply may stand up to them.

With that being said, when it comes to communicating with them, it is very crucial how to approach them.

To avoid danger on your end, you would want to do it strategically and subtly. Either way, they would take surely notice a dynamic shift and be surprised upon the revelation that they are no longer in control.

Going No-Contact

Narcissist are under the assumption that you will never leave them. In fact, it can be leaving.

Manipulating the relationship from the very beginning, they’ve cornered you into a position where leaving is a near-impossible option — stemming from a deep-rooted fear of being possibly abandoned. For the sake of “love,” you might’ve undermined a lot of their inexcusable behavior, essentially giving them one too many chances. In the eyes of the narcissist, if you haven’t left at…




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