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This Will Make The Narcissist Feel Sorry Forever
The trick is, you use reverse psychology on them.
In my experience, narcissists are highly reactive to their partner’s opinions, wants, needs, and requests. But in a totally backwards way.
It’s as if they look to you to see what NOT to do, and almost always immediately disagree with everything that you have to say. They are contrary, quarrelsome, and generally insecure individuals who don’t even really know what they want, but in some passive-aggressive universe they occupy, known only to them, it ought to be the opposite of whatever you appear to think it should be.
Highly reactive and sensitive to criticism already, if you cry to them about how much they’ve hurt you, over and over, they can become increasingly colder and even more full of general denial. To be criticized and caught out, even in the face of incriminating evidence, is intolerable to them, and they are apt to feel victimized by the very fact of confrontation for their wrongs.
For whatever reason, any anger on your part is always going to be construed as inappropriate and wrong by the narcissist, no matter how totally deserving of it and more that they clearly are.
