They usually are soft gentle, chilled-out and sensitive when you first meet them. Maybe love-bombing you into falling for them completely.
But in some cases they might even outright tell you they are selfish or have narcissistic tendencies in the first few meetings which an unsuspecting person will most likely interpret such as a display of humility or a healthy acknowledgement of self-awareness.
They often display the victim mentality which helps you develop empathy, and want to understand them —since no one else ever has. Underneath this lies the inability to accept their own flaws and failings and by inflating both poles of success and failure, they successfully hide their lack of core sense of self-worth. They need to be showered in empathy, support, understanding. They need to be adored. This is all they crave.
But things start to not add up. Neither words and actions are inconsistent. And basically, once you start to feel something is off, and begin to question things, it goes downhill pretty quickly from there. It is only until this point do you see their true colors.
Everything they do is done to keep their mask intact. Which is just terrible insecurity at the end of the day. It’s exhausting because the time and effort involved in giving high appraisal, support, an…
